Turn Towards Each Other – YMMP004

How can we insert more romance into our marriage without trying?

In today’s episode, you’ll discover easy ways to keep your relationship traveling in the direction of comfort and closeness. This episode is short and to the point!

Wipe out neglect by turning towards your partner rather than away from him or her.

This is so simple, yet is one of those things that causes a slow erosion and distance between spouses.

“Turn Towards Your Partner Instead of Away” is the third level of “The Sound Relationship House” Theory as proposed by Dr. John Gottman (www.gottmaninstitute.org).

Be sure to listen to Your Marriage Matters episodes 2 and 3 in order to benefit fully from this process. We will continue with The Sound Relationship House for 6 more episodes. By the time you are finished with this series AND if you practice the suggestions and techniques provided in this series, you will lay a foundation that can eliminate the threat of divorce and discontent in your marriage!

Please don’t think divorce is not a possibility. It’s occurring in 40% of the population. Almost all couples who walk down the aisle of love on their wedding day will proclaim: “It won’t be us!” So who are these 40% of first marriages that end in divorce?

No one knows what the future holds. But we do know there is so much we can do in the present!

I meet men and women almost on a daily basis who are BLINDSIDED. They are SHOCKED that they ended up in a place of separation or divorce. They never thought it would happen to them. And guess what? Do you know what might have saved their marriage?

Are they following this model? Do they know one another’s world (Building Love Maps)? Are they fond and admirable of each other? Are they turning towards each other on a daily basis? Hmm. Something to think about…

Don’t end up going down the path of estrangement and do yourself a favor and take 10 minutes to listen to today’s episode. You won’t be sorry.


Fondness and Admiration – YMMP003

Do you want to know how to eliminate the threat of an affair? Want to be in a relationship where the D-word won’t surface? (The D-word = divorce) Give me 12 minutes of your time and you’ll see what I mean.

Do you like your spouse? How do you show it?

Are you fond of your spouse?  Do you admire your spouse?

Today we will talk about why it’s important to honor, respect and be kind to your spouse. Some of us take it for granted, but did you know that if you are fond of your spouse and show admiration, then the likelihood of contempt or an affair is DRASTICALLY reduced?

It takes conscious effort to set aside the flaws, annoyances and teeny, tiny criticisms of our beloved, but it can make or break your marriage over the long haul.

Please, no eye-rolling of public criticisms of your spouse. No one benefits.

Love Maps – The Key to Understanding – YMMP002

Did you know that couples get stuck in a cycle of conflict and miscommunication based in large part because they don’t understand each other?

Does your spouse GET you? Does he or she know what’s going on with you? Do you GET your spouse?

On today’s show, we talk about LOVE MAPS – what it means, why it’s important and how you can create an accurate love map.

“Building Love Maps; Knowing One Another’s World” is at the foundation of the Sound Relationship House Theory (as proposed by John Gottman; gottmaninstitute.com). A love map is a road map of one’s inner psychological world.

Do you know the one quality essential for accurate Love Maps?  I’ll give you a hint. Unscramble these letters: S-T-O-N-E-Y-H

Today’s show went beyond 15 minutes, in part because I wanted to review 4 secrets on how to build an amazing marriage:

  1. Self-awareness. You must seek the truth about yourself, and not be afraid to be vulnerable.
  2. YOU are responsible for a big part of your marital happiness, so STOP staring at your spouse for answers or blame.
  3. Teamwork. Always keep in mind that the husband and wife dynamic is like a team, working for the “greater good” and end goal of a fully functioning family unit. Say that 10 times fast. Fully functioning family unit…..
  4. Stick with Your Marriage Matters and you won’t become a statistic! It is my hope that you become a pillar of your community, with an amazing marriage. Very few marriage counselors and coaches make guarantees and promises, but I do.

Let’s Build an Amazing Marriage – Welcome! – YMMP001

What does it take to make a great marriage? Find out by becoming a regular listener to this new, revolutionary podcast. No one else is talking about the things I will be revealing on Your Marriage Matters.

On this debut episode, you’ll discover that creating a happy, lifelong, fulfilling relationship is not rocket science. I can’t wait to share all of the secrets that will help you grow in love and contentment.

In fact, I’m giving all of my secrets away, as liberally as I can. In this debut episode, my gift to you includes 4 secrets to building a happy marriage.  Are you ready?!

Warning! The honesty of this podcast might rock your world, and it’s not for the faint of heart. You’ll want to subscribe to the podcast so that you don’t miss out on the obvious, foolproof ways you can create a sizzling and meaningful marriage. I KNOW what causes marriages to fail and what causes success. It’s up to you. What will you choose?